Create Doable Habits that Get You to Your Goals – with Ronnie Lo Life Coach | RR260

Janice Porter: 00:00:01

Hello everyone and welcome to this week's

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episode of relationships rule. My guest today comes from

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normally sunny California right near where my sister lives so

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I'm going to make sure I meet her in person next time I go

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there. Her name is Ronnie lo aza. First of all welcome to the

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show. Ronnie.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:00:20

Janis, I've been a fan of your podcast for so

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long. I feel like you've already welcomed me and you know, a long

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time ago.

Janice Porter: 00:00:26

That's so kind. That's so cool.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:00:28

We know you but you don't know. We know you

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until we meet. Yeah, that's

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what's so special. I love this. So Ronnie

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reached out to me on LinkedIn, actually not by email. But I

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want to make this about you and share it with my audience that

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Ronnie goes by Ronnie low life coach, which she can tell the

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story about that. But really, Ronnie is a life coach, and

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she's all about habits and celebrating celebrative

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accountability. That's a hard word for me to say. So

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celebrated?

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:01:00

Yeah. Say that, again. Celebrate if

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accountability

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celebrate of accountability, that makes it

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easy. She's a certified professional life coach with a

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holistic Mind Body psyche connection. And I know also that

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you were a physical trainer for many years as well, you probably

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still do that a little bit with your yoga training and so forth.

Janice Porter: 00:01:20

Is that correct?

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:01:22

Well, here's the thing. I was a personal trainer,

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and I was never athletic ever. I was like the ones who picked for

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softball, I was just the worst. But in my late 40s, I had health

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issues. Long story short, I left PR and news because I was doing

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radio news to become a personal trainer because of my health

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issues by God and a corrective exercise personal trainer. I was

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what he called it when doctors prescribed that referred me to a

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corrective exercise, personal trainer after acupuncture,

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chiropractors to Western medical doctors, you name it, nothing. I

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learned how to work out properly, and I didn't hurt

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anymore. And so she kept saying because I was so into it. I

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really when I'm interested in something, I asked a million

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questions. So I started asking her questions, and we were

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always talking about everything. And she's like, You need to

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become a personal trainer. And like no, I mean, who does that

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I'm in my late 40s. She's like, because the thing is, you say

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you're not athletic, but you're in great shape. Now you don't

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hurt you and you're late for it. Well, I was 46. So people will

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believe you, you can relate to them, you'll be your own walking

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billboard. A year later, I thought, you know, I think will

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become a personal trainer. And my mission, then I'm tying this

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to my life coaching now. My mission became then after you're

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taking all the exams, and you know, people think, oh, what's a

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personal trainer? Yeah, there are good ones in there. It's

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just like, there's really absolutely, yes, good doctors.

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And there are doctors that just got a medical degree, you know,

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they're good lawyers. And so in every field are those who take

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it seriously. And they keep learning. And they they're

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passionate about it. What I learned is you can study all the

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anatomy, physiology, kinesiology in the world, and given the

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information, but what my clients really needed back then. And I'm

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not all woowoo, I'm very pragmatic. They needed mindset.

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They needed help with their mindset. And now looking back at

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it, it's funny, I'm just thinking about it. Now, it was

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habits. And it's not just their habits, it's their habitual way

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of thinking and their habitual way of approaching things. So I

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set out then to be a personal trainer, every single individual

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client to be as fit as that particular person could be not

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like the magazines or the online or other people, but as fit as

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that person could be. So I take this back Now, fast forward to

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COVID because I became a personal trainer in 2011, and

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then a senior fitness specialist and then pre postnatal, I have a

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lot of specializations. Because as I kept working, different

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people came to me and I'm the type like, Oh, my God, a

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pregnant woman. What do I do? So I thought I should know what I'm

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doing. So I got certified and I started training then all sorts

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of certifications, women fitness specialists. And when COVID

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happened, the first thing that happened was that people stopped

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working out. You thought, peloton, well, that's not true,

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not everybody, right? Especially working women. They were so I

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mean, we all pulled our big girl pants up and took care of

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business. But there were a lot of women who were afraid of

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losing their jobs, whether they were the boss, and they had to

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take care of it. Or they were on staff and they didn't want to be

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indispensable. So some of my clients all who went on Zoom,

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started telling me you know, my sister, you know, my friend or

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whoever, it's just not working out anymore. And they're working

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late hours. And you remember that kids were all working at

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home and their spouse partner was at home. And so they either

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didn't have time or they felt kind of like, oh, I don't want

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to workout at home. They feel self conscious. So I started

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saying, Well, you want me to talk to them. So start talking

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to people. And somebody said you Have you really coached me?

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Well, and somebody else told me, you know, you should be a life

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coach. And I remember my sister telling me years ago, you should

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be a life coach and like, what's a life coach? I thought it was

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like real housewives or something. I show you like,

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exactly. My brain candy. But I looked into it. And I got

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serious. And I really looked at the different credentials,

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because anybody can call themselves a coach, and anybody

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can call themselves a life coach. But I'm like, Okay, take

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this seriously. I start talking to my friends in Europe. And

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they really take it seriously. They're their accreditation. So

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I went with somebody, an institution and organization

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that was ICF accredited international coaching

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Federation. There are different ones. I like that one. I like

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structure. I like learning a lot. I love the psychology. And

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I love how much training they put you through and how many

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hours in practice hours. So I took it seriously. And I became

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a life coach. And now I'm a master professional life coach.

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What I see Janice, what I wanted to talk with you about is

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something great, I'd love to talk about his habits. I noticed

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the common thread again, to get back to my personal training is

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in relationships, in networking, in your career growth, I thought

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it was going into it being a fitness coach, I have coached so

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many people still am in career transition, and leadership and

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time management and career growth. And mostly, well, now

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there are men as well. I'm not gonna say mostly, but a lot of

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women pass 50 They're pivoting that became the word after

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COVID. But they are growing. And so I took this common thread of,

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you know, habits enter into every aspect of our lives. Every

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single one and our day. And these are real stats, you can

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look it up. Our day is 40 to 50% driven by our habits.

Janice Porter: 00:06:40

Okay, stop right there. Stop. What's that song?

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And emails? No, no, there's that one too. And then there's stop

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right now. Thank you very much the Spice Girls. That's what

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just Yeah, so stop right there. And let me just put this into

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perspective for me because I, selfishly I want to know how to

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there's that word pivot, but how to create I think is the right

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habit. How to create the right habit. That's doable, because

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you say habits, doable habits, that that. Like I play, I feel

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like I play mind games with myself. So I work from home.

Janice Porter: 00:07:24

Right? You work from home, too, I think, don't you? Yeah, I work

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from home. And I book I just said to you, when we got on this

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call, I've been on calls all day, the most I have gotten up

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is to go downstairs and make a cup of tea or get my lunch or

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get a glass of water. So that I'm up and down the stairs and

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I'm walking a little bit. That's sort of the extent of it. And

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I'm sitting here thinking, I need to go for a walk. And I do

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this to myself, every single day. I need to go for a walk or

Janice Porter: 00:07:51

I should you know, or I know there are no shoulds it's it's

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all this thing, right? It's mindset, it's habits. It's it's

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talking yourself in and out of things. It's willpower, all of

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those things. So how do I shift it? Because it's not doing me?

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My I'm not doing myself any favors. And I'm sure there's

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many other people that say the same things that I do that are

Janice Porter: 00:08:12

listening to this call?

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:08:13

Oh, yeah. And that's the biggest thing. In

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fact, I addressed this very thing on a Tuesday thing I just

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posted on my Facebook group every Tuesday, give a Tuesday

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trip, trip. Where's all this resistance? Because every day we

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tell ourselves the same thing. I want to do this, what's stopping

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you? Why are you doing the thing that you know, you want to want

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to do? Not what you want to do? What you want to want to do?

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There is? Yes, yes. To do that. You know, like this one lady,

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she wanted more focus, she wanted to be more alert during

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the day, and stop drinking her coffee down thinking this is

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gonna make me more alert. Well, we've finally got down to the

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you know, we can't go into all my case studies, but the grid of

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it was she wasn't getting enough rest. So in order to be more

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alert and focused, you need to get enough rest. And she would

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tell herself every morning, tonight, I'm going to go to

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sleep earlier tonight, I'm going to turn that TV off. Tonight,

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I'm going to do some self care every day, she would think that

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but then the night came and she wouldn't do that. And she's like

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hurrying up, jumping on that social media again, or jumping,

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taking care of last minute emails and then going to bed

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after looking at that blue light and the things she wanted to

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want to do. So we tell ourselves that every day you tell yourself

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I should go for a walk or I should do this. You know what it

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throughout the rules, like you shouldn't shouldn't. If you say

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you should, you should. Okay, you're you know, it's like yeah,

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you should do that. Because you decide you should do that now

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because the the world decides or society decides, Okay, so if you

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say I should do that we'll do I want to do that. Why do I want

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to do that? And everybody knows what's your why? And we keep

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digging, we keep digging. And there are three ways to approach

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this and I didn't come up with us. But there are three ways to

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approach creating a new habit. First, it's your goal. Do you

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want to approach it by? What's my end goal? Okay, what is your

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end goal? Do you want to just my end goal is I want to walk every

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day for 10 minutes or whatever it takes three breaks? Or is it

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your process are you going to focus on how you're going to do

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that all the hacks, all the tricks, all the routines, all

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the notifications, all the posts, all the alarms is the

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process you're going to focus on, or you can focus on. And you

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know, this from James Clary, you can focus on the identity. And

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that's like when he started saying them, like you're

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preaching to the choir, James, because I've read this all my

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life, and I know this. You are your habits. Aristotle said

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that. In other words, I'm paraphrasing him, but we are our

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habits. Now people come to me and like, you know, I'm more

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than just my habits. I have my values. And I have my

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personality, like, yes, you're all of that. And what you do

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every day, defines your day, determines your day, determines

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your week, determines your quarter determines your year

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determines your relationship determines your marriage, the

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term, you can go on and on and on what you do every day, reaps

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results. So that is your identity, just like in the

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atomic habits book when he says, Okay, what do you ultimately if

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it's your identity, I'm a healthy person get even more

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detailed? I'm a runner, well, what does a runner do? A runner

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runs? So what does a healthy person do you define what a

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healthy person is? And then you do what a healthy person does?

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That's your identity. That's what I mean by it's your

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identity. You are your habits, your habits, are you. So if we

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want to talk about relationships, let's say

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business relationships, you have something and I'm going to ask

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you a question, I'm going to take it off the you want to walk

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everyday, but we can address that. I want to ask you, Janice,

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you have something and I hope I can reveal it. I hope it's okay.

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But I'm going to ask you if it's an impulse, if it's second

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nature, you don't even think twice about it. So almost like a

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compulsion? Or is it something that said in your list of to

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do's after you speak with somebody on Zoom or a meeting?

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Is it something that you have an a list to dues and you have to

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:12:10

Oh, yeah, I have to do that. You send out thank you cards. Is

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that just automatic? Or is that something that you have to

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remember to do, and it's on a to do list?

Janice Porter: 00:12:21

It's something I want to do. And I it's part of

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the process, for example, after a podcast, or after a first call

Janice Porter: 00:12:31

with someone if I remember to get their address. Right. But

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does it come to you naturally at the end of

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every call? Or meeting? Does it just come to you? Thank You

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card. Yes,

Janice Porter: 00:12:43

it does. It

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pops in your mind, right? Yes,

Janice Porter: 00:12:48

yes. It's become a habit over the years.

Janice Porter: 00:12:50

Absolutely. Yeah.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:12:52

So a habit is not my time. A lot of people like

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how long until I create this habit. There have been various

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studies and it's anywhere from 66 days to 237 days. What it is,

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is repetition, repetition, repetition. That's how you learn

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how to tie your shoe. That's how you learn what to do after you

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go to the bathroom, if you know what I mean. That's how you

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learn how to brush your teeth. It's repetition. So if you do

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something 2000 times in a week, you'll probably learn faster

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than if you do it every other week when you remember for two

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years. So it really is repetition so bad. You want to

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walk Do you really do really really want to walk during the

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day?

Janice Porter: 00:13:28

If it's not pouring with rain, and it's

Janice Porter: 00:13:31

Yeah, and if if I'm not going to wreck my hair for the calls I

Janice Porter: 00:13:36

have in the afternoon or do yes I do. Because I could choose

Janice Porter: 00:13:40

when in the day I do that walk but I don't know do I want to

Janice Porter: 00:13:44

I'm not doing it. So there you go. I mean, I get what you're

Janice Porter: 00:13:46

saying. What is it that

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:13:48

you really want out of the walk? Why do you want

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to walk

Janice Porter: 00:13:52

because I want to not sit at my desk all day I

Janice Porter: 00:13:55

want to move my body I want to feel some fresh air in my lungs.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:14:01

Okay, so is it the fresh air? Or is it that you

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want to get away from your computer and your office

Janice Porter: 00:14:07

that I want to get away from my computer

Janice Porter: 00:14:09

particularly. So easiest that's the easiest form of exercise

Janice Porter: 00:14:16

isn't well it's easiest in the sense that I can just walk out

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the door you know, grab my phone, put my headphones on and

Janice Porter: 00:14:24

you know, go if you

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:14:26

had to if somebody handed you 100 Canadian

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dollars right now if you told them something a little bit

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easier than having to grab your headphones and walk out the

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door. Did you think of something else to move your body?

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:14:37

Something easier?

Janice Porter: 00:14:40

Well, I tried I tried I got an app on the phone

Janice Porter: 00:14:44

on my on my iPad, too because I love to dance but my body

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doesn't like me to dance too much anymore but I wanted to do

Janice Porter: 00:14:51

you know the exercise the dancing on the I'm giving

Janice Porter: 00:14:56

retreats, my secrets now

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:14:59

what do you And then doing that if you can't

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:15:01

dance something else, I'll give you 200 Canadian dollars.

Janice Porter: 00:15:05

I don't know, go up and down the stairs. We can

Janice Porter: 00:15:08

you

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:15:09

you'll have hip problems. You're okay. Yeah.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:15:12

Okay. Could you just get up and do a really good cat stretch?

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:15:16

Sure. Yeah. Oh, that's even easier, right? Yep. What could

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you do for 10 minutes a day that every single day at the exact

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same time at the exact same location, whether it's raining,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:15:29

snowing, when

Janice Porter: 00:15:32

so true what you're saying, but you know

Janice Porter: 00:15:33

what, the last time I tried to do that and make it a habit. I

Janice Porter: 00:15:37

chose three things to do within that amount of time. And one of

Janice Porter: 00:15:41

them of course, I was overextending myself. And I was

Janice Porter: 00:15:44

an because I chose to do squats because squats are really good.

Janice Porter: 00:15:49

And I I wrecked my meniscus. So that was the end of that. But

Janice Porter: 00:15:55

you know what I mean? Like that. So now I'm scared to do that.

Janice Porter: 00:15:57

But you want to do something that's going to be effective.

Janice Porter: 00:15:59

But yes, I hear what you're saying. Brilliant. Okay,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:03

so this, this is brilliant. This is where we come

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down. And this is the biggest resistance at first when we

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start creating a new habit. Every single client without

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fail, since I started doing this wants to do two or three things.

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Or one thing that's overextending it, because again,

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but they all go together to make it even tinier. We shrink the

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:23

friction, we shrink the change, shrink the change, and you may

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:28

think that's not as effective. What's more effective doing 10

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:32

crunches if that is not going to hurt you or something else other

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:35

than lunges or squats something doable. once mighty lay you said

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:41

shrink

Janice Porter: 00:16:42

the shrink

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:43

the change, which is the behavior aka the habit.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:46

Yeah, is that's the change, shrink the change, shrink it

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:50

like a laser in that sci fi movie when you shrink the person

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:53

shrink the habit. So instead of doing squats, and you said to

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:16:57

other things, squats, and what else did you do?

Janice Porter: 00:16:59

Ah, what else did I do? I can't remember I did

Janice Porter: 00:17:02

squats. And I did. I think I did arms arm circles and a couple of

Janice Porter: 00:17:08

different versions of arm circles. And then something.

Janice Porter: 00:17:11

Okay. Yeah. So instead

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:13

of like, all three, one, or one of each.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:19

Yeah, which is silly. But if I were your, if I were your coach,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:22

I'm also a certified personal trainer still, until you don't

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:27

use your knees, get down on the floor and do bridges much

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:30

easier. Okay? Or get an infinity ban and put them around your

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:34

knees and just open your knees and close real slowly. I mean, I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:37

would help you with that. So my clients kind of get the benefit

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:40

of that is that I know nutrition. And I know exercise.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:42

So if we're working on all that. It's like, yeah, I take off my

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:45

coaching cabinet. I put on my Yeah, but we would choose one

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:49

little thing. Oh, perfect example this one guy. Two weeks

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:53

ago, he wanted to start getting active. He felt so good. When he

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:17:58

used to work out like when's the last time used to work out we

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:00

work in this whole mindset thing. He's this executive. And

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:03

he's like, the last time I really felt good is when I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:06

worked out. And he was working out like four times a week. So

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:09

we finally fast forward, we shrunk it down to how about

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:12

working out he wants to work out 45 minutes three times a week.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:16

I'm like, let's take it even smaller. He was really not he

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:19

hasn't worked out in two years. But he wouldn't want him to

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:22

start 45 minutes. I mean, even smaller, we finally found out we

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:26

agreed on 10 minutes a day. At the end of his work day. Boom,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:31

he shuts off his laptop, his laptop. He does 10 minutes. What

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:35

What if I'm all or nothing, and I want to do longer while I'm on

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:37

there, like don't do not walk away. Go in that house. So he

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:44

did it. And at first he's like, I want to go on. He knew he

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:48

could. But he didn't. He's on his third week now 10 minutes a

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:53

day. But what we discovered is that you know what everybody

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:18:57

else you know, and this came out in coaching everybody else's

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:00

work. Most everybody in that company works remote or hybrid.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:04

They work out. And because I asked him like if you have so

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:07

many meetings in the morning, and you guys are always busy at

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:09

night with more meetings or other things. When did they work

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:12

out? And he said well, actually and he found out he's like

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:14

they're working out during lunch? I'm like at 1pm Yeah, so

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:17

you work out 10 minutes a day. So this week, he's doing 10

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:21

minutes, maybe 15 if it spills over, and here's the Celebrate

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:24

of accountability. I call it celebrative because when people

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:30

hear accountability, they think oh, I got it again. You're not

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:34

and you're you're nagging me you're nudging me that I should

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:38

I should. I should. Like, learn to celebrate yourself. Look at

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:42

the little glimmers the shiny spots and share your wins. But

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:46

here's the thing, share too with yourself. But if you're gonna

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:49

learn to share it with yourself, you have to get in the habit of

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:51

sharing it, expressing it, getting it out of your body,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:54

through your lungs through your throat through your mouth, not

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:19:57

just think it not just write it down. But say it. And I even go

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:02

further in, as you're about to do it as you're about to do your

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:07

five minutes. Janish I would say for you five minutes before that

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:09

walk and do something in the house, every single day, same

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:13

time, same bat time, same bat channel, if you know what I'm

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:16

talking about, you're my generation. Five minutes a day,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:19

not 10 Not 15, five minutes, every single day. You know, it's

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:25

my movement time. There's my movement time. So I lost my

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:31

train of thought, Okay. We shrank it down to 1pm 10 minutes

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:35

a day. Yeah. And he's doing it. He's been doing it for a week,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:38

because what you have to do, oh, celebrative accountability.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:41

That's where we were on his way to do it. I'm like, tell

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:44

yourself, I'm on my way to do it. I'm on my way and say out

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:49

loud on going now. I'm doing it. I'm about to do it. As you're

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:53

doing it. I'm doing it. But say it. Because when you say it

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:20:56

audibly, your brain hears it. Your brain is a computer, your

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:01

brain goes, yep. You have to start reprogramming your brain.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:07

And once you've done it sure share, I did it. This is what

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:10

what they do with me as their coach, they go on Voxer done. I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:14

mean, most of them just go done. It doesn't take more than a

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:17

second. Some go on and tell me how they feel. And it's great.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:20

And I did that. And sure, share, share as much as you want. But

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:23

celebrate yourself, because I'm not going to be around forever.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:26

But you're going to be around forever with yourself. You're

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:29

you start getting in the habit of celebrating yourself, even if

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:32

it's a tiny little habit, you know what tiny little habits are

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:35

harder at first because you resist them. You want to do the

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:21:38

big thing. Don't do the big thing. Don't do the big?

Janice Porter: 00:21:42

Yeah, no, this is awesome. This is awesome. I

Janice Porter: 00:21:45

think, you know, I speak to many people. And you know, I've heard

Janice Porter: 00:21:51

different cabinet coaches, productivity coaches, all of

Janice Porter: 00:21:56

these things. And what you're doing is you're just simplifying

Janice Porter: 00:21:59

it for me, you're simplifying it. And you're also pointing it

Janice Porter: 00:22:04

inward. And saying, don't try to do too much. Just pick, you

Janice Porter: 00:22:08

know, and do it and stick to your new little habit. And then

Janice Porter: 00:22:12

the habit can get bigger, right after a while, but celebrate

Janice Porter: 00:22:15

what you do and speak to it, right? I'm on weight, I'm on my

Janice Porter: 00:22:21

way to doing it. I'm doing it. I'm proud of having done it.

Janice Porter: 00:22:24

Right, basically, is what you're saying. I love it. Wow, that's

Janice Porter: 00:22:29

exciting. And I think and just listening to the way you say

Janice Porter: 00:22:33

things, actually is very inspirational, you are very

Janice Porter: 00:22:37

motivational. And I know you can't motivate someone else you

Janice Porter: 00:22:40

can inspire them, but at least that's what I think but it's

Janice Porter: 00:22:43

very, very inspiring. And I'm going to suggest that you get a

Janice Porter: 00:22:51

lot of a lot of warm fuzzies from people when they do what

Janice Porter: 00:22:57

what you, you know, create for them and and work with them on

Janice Porter: 00:23:00

because must be really satisfying when they see

Janice Porter: 00:23:04

success.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:06

And like I said it before I got on to all this,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:08

I thought well, okay, I've tried a lot of things to change

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:11

certain certain things or create new habits, especially as an

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:15

entrepreneurs, you know, because I used to work for the man, I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:17

used to work for a paycheck, it was scary letting go of that w

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:20

two for the 1099. So you instead of discipline or willpower,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:25

which you know, you need to have a schedule and all that you

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:27

really have to get in habits for yourself. And for me, just for

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:33

me, but everybody, there's the thing about behavior change in

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:35

habits is that they're very complex. And it depends on the

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:40

context. And they're very personal. Not one, it's not one

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:43

size fits all. It just is not. You have to give that tailor and

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:47

he has to measure you or she Okay, show me journaling didn't

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:52

work. I love journaling. I think it's awesome. It didn't work for

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:55

me. I don't have 20 Minutes for Meditation. I just don't unless

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:23:59

you pay me a million dollars for it every day. I just I didn't

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:01

have the motivation. I'm not that type of person. But what I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:06

did is I discovered and this is just me and so this is what I do

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:09

for my clients. What will you do? That's what I meant by

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:12

what's doable? What will you realistically do? Not just what

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:16

can you do? Because everybody goes okay, I can do this. I can

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:19

spend 20 minutes and I can but if you can't you can't I mean

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:22

it's not your style. So I found EFT Oh really? Tapping it's a

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:30

tapping meditation. You can spend 20 minutes but I do EFT

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:34

you can do a 32nd EFT you can do a one minute EFT when you tap on

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:39

your and I realized I'm a moving person. When I used to really be

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:44

in my Zen walking when I used to be in my Zen and kind of gotten

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:48

that meditative zone is when I used to walk especially on the

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:51

beach. But you know where I live in Los Angeles and Van Nuys you

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:54

can't really walk. Yeah, but I feel I'm a moving person. That's

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:24:59

when I get in my zone. Oh and my Zen, so EFT to me, I can talk to

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:03

myself while tapping on the points, you know, and it's

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:06

physical. And I can't do anything else if I'm busy

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:10

talking. So it helps me focus on what I'm telling myself, as

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:15

opposed to a guided meditation where I start making grocery

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:18

list in my brain on foods. Yeah, use it as like, oh my god, what

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:22

are what else do I have to do today? Or like other people tell

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:25

me they fall asleep. You know, my thing, like my Gremlin was

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:28

times like, I don't want to take the time. So I found EFT, but

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:31

that's what works for me. So then when I became a coach, I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:34

try this on one other lady, busy, busy lady. She's just

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:37

like, I'm just not woohoo. I can't do all the affirmations

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:40

and all that. I'm like, Alright, how about doodle? She's like,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:43

what? I'll fast forward. But we started her doodling in the

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:47

morning. I'm like, spend 30 seconds set the timer, I don't

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:49

care. She realized 30 seconds was nothing she would spend a

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:52

minute doodling little wiggly things. And then something would

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:55

come to her she would write it. And then she would doodle doodle

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:25:58

do it. Oh my god, something came to her she would write it also,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:00

she was coming up with all these ideas that had to do with her

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:02

business. Some of them were about family. So she was

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:06

journaling. But not realize she was journaling. She should write

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:08

down her thought before she forgot it. But literally she was

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:12

drawing like little wormy squiggles. So

Janice Porter: 00:26:15

so your your, your zone of genius is, is

Janice Porter: 00:26:20

really being able to pinpoint people down to find a way to

Janice Porter: 00:26:26

make them start to change, not to make them but to, you know,

Janice Porter: 00:26:29

for them to change their habit.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:31

I help you find your internal motivator. Because

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:34

we all have external motivators. I laugh when it's like, yeah,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:37

the the posting and the alarm, we all know, the first thing

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:41

that comes out of everybody's mouth, well, I could set an

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:43

alarm, sure you turn it off, and then you don't do it. So and we

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:46

all have your brain gets used to that posted sitting in front of

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:51

your computer, and then you ignore it. It just becomes like

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:53

this thing in front of your face. You can't see me because I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:26:57

have my hand or my nose, it just becomes part of what's in front

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:01

of you. So your internal motive, What's your motive? What's your

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:06

why that's your motivation? And then you have to find your

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:09

momentum, your habits are your natural momentum, rather than

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:14

discipline rather than just mere willpower? Because that's

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:17

another thing about willpower. Willpower, yes, we've all got

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:21

willpower. But you burn out, because after a while, it's like

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:25

you're constantly going, Okay, I've got the power. I've got the

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:27

camera, I gotta make myself do it. See how harsh that sounds?

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:31

Energy, and then you get burnt out. But if it's just a habit,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:35

you don't get burnt out. Sometimes Sure, you got to push

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:39

yourself that extra little mile. The thing is, once you already

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:43

have the momentum and you're already doing something

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:45

naturally, if you have to go off on five more minutes, okay, you

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:49

can do it, usually. And if you can't, don't, you know, people

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:52

were surprised when they're like, Oh, I just I proved out

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:27:54

like, okay. So you booked up? Go on? Yeah.

Janice Porter: 00:27:59

Yeah, it's, it seems so simple. It isn't often,

Janice Porter: 00:28:04

you know, we make we we talk ourselves out of things very

Janice Porter: 00:28:09

easily. So we should be able to talk ourselves into them as

Janice Porter: 00:28:11

well. You know, like, it shouldn't be that hard. It

Janice Porter: 00:28:14

shouldn't be that art sounds easy. When you say it. I'll see.

Janice Porter: 00:28:17

I'm going to try it and see what happens. I'll let you know.

Janice Porter: 00:28:21

There's so much we could talk about and I'm, I'm looking

Janice Porter: 00:28:26

forward to perhaps having another conversation and

Janice Porter: 00:28:29

bringing you back, because I think there's so much more to

Janice Porter: 00:28:32

what you bring to the table. And I love it. And like I have

Janice Porter: 00:28:36

another question that was on your website, but we don't have

Janice Porter: 00:28:38

time to go into it now. So we'll do it next. Okay. And just

Janice Porter: 00:28:43

before we go, though, I want to ask you a couple of questions,

Janice Porter: 00:28:46

just an aside so I can find out my audience can find out a

Janice Porter: 00:28:49

little bit more about you. So you took a big thing. First of

Janice Porter: 00:28:54

all, I want to just say you took a big thing and in turn, you're

Janice Porter: 00:28:57

you know, you had a health scare. So that that was your

Janice Porter: 00:28:59

motivation to the beginning of a new career for you and so forth.

Janice Porter: 00:29:04

Right? But what since then, now that you're teaching other

Janice Porter: 00:29:10

people, the the ways to create these new habits, what's

Janice Porter: 00:29:16

something you've done in the last year, let's say that you

Janice Porter: 00:29:19

use your own medicine on if you know what I'm saying. So what's

Janice Porter: 00:29:25

a new thing that you created for yourself?

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:29:28

Okay, um, well, it's kinda it's a little private

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:29:32

but no, I'll share I'll be all vulnerable. I had a habit of

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:29:38

eating in front of the computer because again, time is my my

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:29:41

family Mike is like I don't want to take time to go do lunch. I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:29:44

don't do lunch. luncheon, and I don't want to take the time to

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:29:50

do breakfast so i i snack and I'm not condoning this for

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:29:55

anybody else. Okay, I don't think people should snap because

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:29:57

it spikes your insulin and you could Become pre diabetic or it

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:01

turns into a bad habit. Okay, but with me it works. Grazing

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:05

works as far as my nutrition goes, but I'm not condoning it

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:08

for everybody. But my thing was, okay, I'm eating all the time.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:13

And then I'm not overweight. I'm okay. But it became just a

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:18

mindless eating habit. So I had to look at myself and really

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:24

think, Okay, why am I doing this because I'm just used to, it was

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:26

more of I'm, I had to work on this, I realized it was the

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:32

sensation of something up to my mouth. It was not the sugar. It

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:38

was not because I needed energy. It wasn't any of that. So I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:30:43

found that interesting.

Janice Porter: 00:30:45

I think that happened for a lot of people

Janice Porter: 00:30:47

through COVID. Because habits changed around work. And you now

Janice Porter: 00:30:52

you're in one place at home, where there's access to those

Janice Porter: 00:30:57

snacks more so than there were in the office, let's say I don't

Janice Porter: 00:31:00

know, unless you had a drawer full of them. I don't know, at

Janice Porter: 00:31:03

work. But yeah,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:05

I don't eat anything that I almonds and nuts

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:08

and cashews. Know that nothing messy around my computer. But I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:13

realized it was just pent up energy is because I had to chew

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:16

on something. So I had to look at that. It's like okay, well,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:20

how can I use this pent up energy? So I had to start one

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:24

tiny little habit. You're gonna think this ridiculous.

Janice Porter: 00:31:28

No, I think it's fascinating.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:30

I get up and do jumping jacks.

Janice Porter: 00:31:32

I don't think that's silly. I think that's

Janice Porter: 00:31:34

fascinating. I think that makes sense. That makes sense. Right?

Janice Porter: 00:31:37

But you found a way to change your habit. Yes.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:41

Yeah. And it really, really, really, really

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:43

works. And if you just do a few jumping jacks, now I'm up to

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:46

every morning without fail. I get up and I do jump squats. I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:50

do 60 jump squats. And then I do 100 Jumping jacks. I also do

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:54

push ups during the pandemic. I did that tiny habits challenge.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:31:58

The guy who did a push up a day and no more is like if you go

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:02

more you go more like I thought I was can I cuss on here? Sorry.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:07

I cuss on here. Sure. No, well,

Janice Porter: 00:32:09

once in a while. Yeah,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:11

I was a BA a badass. Because I could do 20

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:14

pushups, because most women I used to train not to push. So

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:18

I'm like, alright, I'll do 20 Push ups on my toes in my hands.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:22

Every day, I would add one more. Well, I got up to 80. And like,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:24

I'm gonna keep going, I promise you and I'm 58 years old. Now. I

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:29

got up to 150 I'm like, I'll stop now. So every year we get

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:33

up and I would do 150 Pushups. I have since changed that because

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:37

I decided to do other things. But I do 40 Push ups every

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:41

single morning. It's a habit and I feel weird. If I don't. That's

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:45

what a habit is. It's just natural. My whole morning

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:48

routine is about five minutes. So I expend energy, I expend

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:54

energy. And I feel proud of myself like done, did it? Yeah.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:32:58

Okay. Let's say something I changed. I did want to add one

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:03

more thing in the LinkedIn thing. I know that a lot of

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:05

people come to you, obviously, how do I do this LinkedIn thing.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:09

What you inspired me to think of which is why I reached out to

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:12

you is there are so many programs out there and so many

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:16

tips and so many things you read online, like try this, try that

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:20

to to network to do this and the algorithms, but beyond all the

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:24

strategies, and it's like I used to say about diets when I was a

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:28

trainer. All diets work if you do them. The thing is people get

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:33

on these diets, and then they they give up. So same thing with

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:36

strategies. I met so many people that were trying strategies and

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:40

programs and $10,000 programs and masterminds and it's like

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:44

nothing worked. I'm like, well, the what? So we go to the habit.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:48

Instead of trying to DM 30 people a day and do this on

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:52

social media. Make sure you post on your feed and oh my god, is

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:55

it algorithm? Is it. Instagram, today's Tik Tok tomorrow, pick

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:33:58

one little tiny thing that no matter what every day, you're

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:02

gonna spend five minutes doing. And I thought about this on

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:06

LinkedIn instead of like, instead of worrying about the

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:09

algorithms and the DMS and all that, what are you going to do

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:12

every day, five minutes, whatever it is that you want to

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:15

do? Is it going to be Connect? Is it to reach out and say, Hey,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:17

thank you for this is to reach out and ask for help, like,

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:20

people love giving advice and tips. Hey, I noticed you posted

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:23

this. What do you think of this? Five minutes a day. It's amazing

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:27

what connections you can make and you're all about

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:29

relationships. And so I kind of experimented with it with a with

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:33

a client who wanted to start networking but didn't know where

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:36

to start. And that was it five minutes a day. And she felt

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:39

that's not enough. She has had so many reach outs now five

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:34:43

minutes a day that it

Janice Porter: 00:34:45

and if I can jump on that to say that if someone

Janice Porter: 00:34:50

already has a good number of connections on LinkedIn that

Janice Porter: 00:34:56

they been connected to for a while. You don't need to go get

Janice Porter: 00:34:59

new ones all day. Time, just go back and pick two a day and

Janice Porter: 00:35:02

start reconnecting with them and see where that takes you, as

Janice Porter: 00:35:06

well. It's not only about doing that, though, it's also about

Janice Porter: 00:35:10

what you say, because it is that is relevant. You know that

Janice Porter: 00:35:15

right? Especially in a in a social media platform. But yeah,

Janice Porter: 00:35:19

I totally agree. I always tell people, there's all this

Janice Porter: 00:35:23

information out there about the algorithms, but if you focus on

Janice Porter: 00:35:29

what you do, who you serve, and how you do it, and help people,

Janice Porter: 00:35:34

it's your community that you're serving, and they they don't

Janice Porter: 00:35:38

care about the algorithm, they just care about, you know,

Janice Porter: 00:35:40

working with someone that they trust. So, you know, there you

Janice Porter: 00:35:43

go. Yeah. So thank you for that, that it's so true, because it

Janice Porter: 00:35:46

does apply in so many ways, whether it's personal, whether

Janice Porter: 00:35:50

it's work related, or whether it's, you know, net, you know,

Janice Porter: 00:35:54

further than that related. I love it. And and I have to say

Janice Porter: 00:35:58

that I've had this book on my night table for years now. And

Janice Porter: 00:36:03

it's the book by it's a book by an I forget his name, actually.

Janice Porter: 00:36:08

But he's the Tapping Solution. It's called and he and his

Janice Porter: 00:36:12

sister, or Nick Turner, Nick, Nick. Yeah.

Ronnie Loaiza: 00:36:17

Yes. Isn't up for that.

Janice Porter: 00:36:20

Yeah, I know, there is exactly. But I always

Janice Porter: 00:36:22

wanted to read the book. And I never quite finished the book.

Janice Porter: 00:36:25

But anyway, we're time Our time is up. We went a little long.

Janice Porter: 00:36:29

And I, I, as I said, I you know, we'll, we can explore further

Janice Porter: 00:36:33

another day. But thank you for being here. Thank you for your

Janice Porter: 00:36:37

wisdom. And for all the inspiration that I feel that you

Janice Porter: 00:36:42

I know you gave it gave me some and I'm hoping that you gave

Janice Porter: 00:36:46

that inspiration to some of my listeners as well. And please

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let us know if that's the case. And share this episode with a

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couple of friends. If you liked what you heard. leave a review.

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Reach out to Ronnie, which you'll have Ronnie Lowe

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coach.com, and I'll put that in the show notes. I'm sure she'd

Janice Porter: 00:37:05

love to hear from you as well. So thank you. Thanks, coach. Oh,

Janice Porter: 00:37:09

sorry. I had it right in front of me, Ronnie low life coach.com

Janice Porter: 00:37:12

I apologize. And it will be correct in the show notes. So

Janice Porter: 00:37:16

thank you again, and remember to stay connected and be remembered